Most people have family, friends or acquaintances throughout their lifetime. What really constitutes a 'true' friendship? Here I am, at twenty-two years old and find myself wondering this question a lot lately. Sure, I have my best friend in the entire world; she lives in Charlotte. We talk daily but it's not the same as face-to-face.
I refer to Wilmington, N.C. as "Never-Never Land". I say this because no one here wants to grow up. You go to a bar and some creepy sixty-two year old is hitting on you and trying to buy you drinks...no thank you! I consider myself a very friendly, outgoing and easily approachable person; however, sometimes just being a 'socialite' doesn't always cut it. Have you ever questioned who your true friends are in this town? How many of them could you call at three o'clock in the morning, expect forgiveness from outrageous drunken nights or even just expect a shoulder to cry on and vent too?
I recently dated someone older than me who I still consider a good friend of mine. I started to notice a distance between us that crept up whenever we were hanging out with certain individuals that he was previously friends with. It was a constant "he said/she said" banter and all I walked away with was hurt feelings. I mean, these people are three to four years older than me. I'm not using that as an excuse; I have definitely had my not-so-charming moments but I can honestly say that I try to learn from my mistakes. I can also say that I try my best to be a 'true' friend. Even to people who have treated me badly in the past, I try to look at every situation by being forgiving and moving on from the past.
I try not to dwell on bad past memories but sometimes that is a challenge for me. I reiterate these thoughts constantly; trying to see how I could have or even should have acted. What could I have done in certain situations to walk away with dignity and respect? Then I start to judge myself, which I have come to the conclusion is absurd. I am me, I know what I want out of life, I have goals and am extremely motivated. Just because I don't have a boyfriend, husband or random hook-up partner; I have my true friends. It takes a lot of heart and respect to uphold worthwhile friendships but those who are deserving will except you with open arms.
Sunday, May 29, 2011
Sunday, May 22, 2011
Connected
Okay, so I am pretty sure everyone is familiar with the website craigslist.com. I was browsing around on it earlier because I wanted to sell some stuff before I move out of my apartment. While I was on the site I remembered a friend of mine in a previous class had asked me if I had ever seen the “missed connections” selection under the personals column. I had never visited it and decided to check it out. In my opinion it is probably one of the funniest things I have ever seen. Apparently it’s a bunch of postings about people seeing someone randomly (who they do not know) and then getting on craigslist and writing about the person they saw and how they wished they could meet them. It even has a list to choose from: men seeking women, women seeking men, women seeking women and men seeking men. For example here are some I found quite amusing:
I got a huge kick out of reading this stuff. Sorry if any of you actually use the site. It completely distracted me from my original goal but kept me entertained. I wonder if people actually respond and find their supposed “soul mate” on there. What a story that would be…“Yeah, I met your mother through an internet post on craigslist, after I saw her driving down Market Street. I simply just typed my heart out to her and waited weeks for a response. She got online one day and our ‘missed connection’ was connected.”
Thursday at Fibbers - m4w - 22 (Fibbers)
Date: 2011-05-02, 9:17PM EDT
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You had sexy long blonde hair and were wearing a blue green dress that showed off your curves. One of your friends had brown hair and was in a red dress. You had a beautiful smile and the way you laughed made me hard. I overheard you saying you're in a sorority and had a formal coming up. . . I wish I could have been your date. . . the things I would do to you afterwards.You might have noticed me, I was at the bar in a navy polo and khaki shorts. I'd love to meet you there again sometime, maybe this time you'll let me buy you a drink. I doubt you'll see this, but if you or any of your sisters do, email me soon :) …
Attractive married English man at drifters yesterday - w4m (downtown wilmington)
Date: 2011-05-20, 7:21PM EDT
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Hi, just wanted to say that you are soooo attacitive and it sucks that I have to keep my hands to myself because you are married. Your accent is what made me melt. Anyway, I hope you continue to come around so I can have some good eye candy to look at :) …
I got a huge kick out of reading this stuff. Sorry if any of you actually use the site. It completely distracted me from my original goal but kept me entertained. I wonder if people actually respond and find their supposed “soul mate” on there. What a story that would be…“Yeah, I met your mother through an internet post on craigslist, after I saw her driving down Market Street. I simply just typed my heart out to her and waited weeks for a response. She got online one day and our ‘missed connection’ was connected.”
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